Pen Parenting And People

Last night I saw a movie and cried myself to sleep. "Everybody's fine" - A Robert de Niro flick. And I have been in love with this man since the longest of time. Like our very own Amitabh Bachchan, some people don't age no matter how many years mark on their faces. He's one such fellow you can't help but warm up to. Those dimples even on his sagging cheeks. Haye. But more on him in another post someday.  Anyway, this movie was about a father who spent all his life coating PVC on electric wires that run around the city, losing his health in the process. Now after his wife's death a few months ago, he tries to reconnect with his four grown up kids in different cities. One by one each one cancels the plan to come and meet him over the weekend that his lonely life had been planning forever and so he decides to visit them himself. And all the children try to put up the facade of a "fine" life, hiding from him how each one struggles in his own wa...

When a mother says she’s tired, that’s all she meant ! She did not say she wants to drop her child and forget that the child exists.   When a mother says she wanted some time alone, just her, that’s all she meant . She didn’t say she’s sorry to be a mother and that motherhood was a mistake in her life.  When a mother says she needs help to get things done, that’s exactly what she meant. She is not incapable.  When a mother makes noddles for dinner, it does not mean she does noddles everyday of the week and that her daughter/son is a child who does not know vegetables or meats.  When you arrive at a mothers house and face disorganization, it doesn’t mean that everyday the house is disorganized. When a mother says she’d love to go out with her friends, that’s all she meant. She doesn’t want to go back to being “single/ not a mother” and like it as if she had responsibility.  When a mother says she worried or afraid, that’s what she m...