Some Chicken Soup/Vegetable Soup for the Parenting Soul,Part 2 ;-)




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Appreciate everyone who followed, read, appreciated and commented on Part:1 of this post. Too much of gyan even children repel, then how can we expect our adult fraternity to digest. So, after two doses of Digene I am penning down the remaining pondering points.

1. Motivate your child to be independent

  • Discourage comparisons and don't force your child to behave in a certain way to gain popularity.
  • Do not sit with your child while doing homework. Help him/her only when there is a gap in understanding. 
  • Resist yourself from hand holding for every task. This will instill confidence in the child.
  • Respect your child's decisions and provide an ambiance to try different things. This will only expand the child's faculties.
  • Do not interfere in sibling relationship, unless absolutely you need to. They should develop their own independent equation and not encouraged to tattle.


2. Motivate your child to be Hard Working

  • Children tend to say " I Can't " easily. Make them realize that with a little hard work, a new skill can be mastered.
  • However intelligent the child is, there is no substitute for hard work. Set aside a fixed time everyday for learning, be it homework or projects. If they don't have either , let the time be utilized for doing puzzles etc. 
  • Older siblings should be made feel responsible for the younger sibling, The younger one should learn to walk along. Two siblings should also divide work and not squabble over who is doing more. 
  • Praise your child for efforts and not mere academics. We are setting examples for children constantly and unknowingly.If we spend our majority time in front of T.V /Mobile/Gossip , the child can never understand what productivity means.
  • Tidying up the house as a play game should be encouraged. This in turn instills a feeling to "'clean your own mess" among them. 
  • For a strong base, a sense of adequacy must develop. Provide that extra support that the child may seek wherever he/she is finding a challenge.


 3. Motivate your child to be Creative

  • Allow the child to pen about family moments.Memoirs penned by children get them to develop strong bonding.
  • Creativity emerges out of mess.If the child is exhibiting special talent nurture it. 
  • Ask the child to draw a family tree on a paper using bright markers. 
  • Link real life examples to education and make it more relate able. ( Eg: Link Fractions to a Pizza etc)
  • Keep the child busy creatively during travel time by making them count cars on the road of a particular color, add up numbers on the number plate of the vehicle, explain road sense and road rules etc.

4. Motivate your child to be Healthy

  • An hour or two of play provides ample opportunity for social and physical development. 
  • Don't be excessively cautious and protective.
  • Give a balanced diet to the child and get the child to eat whatever everyone else is eating at home.
  • Let the child's lunch box also carry healthy options and once in while allow " not so wholesome" meal too. Everyone prefers a bit of deviation sometime :-)
  • Do not allow food while watching T.V ( This is something  I am failing at and see a miserable showdown during meals because of lack of attention towards food). 
  • Set a sleep routine as a proper and complete sleep influences metabolism that recharges the child.

I think I will put a pause here and continue in my final post. Else its too much to take for us too !!! Read the Last Part Here.


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