PaRANTing Today :-)
What do your kids want from you?
We all grew up but that's okay ! But many of us grew up with some degree of pain from our childhood. But that doesn't have to happen. So, as we know more, we can be better parents-We want our children to thrive and not just live. We want them to be the best versions of human beings they can be.
So as a parent of this age what can you do for these little Munchkins??
The crux is simple. It is Reacting vs Responding. We all try to teach values to our kids but link emotions to these values. Eg: Respecting Elders is a Value but when you demonstrate this value by doing so at home it is adding an emotion to value that eventually becomes an action. Emotional Quotient is something that we all need to observe as today's parents. It is understood that emotions like nostalgia or dignity do not produce as much drama as authority or power. Having led a childhood of austerity , many of today's parents ensure that their child gets the best. Eg. I struggled to get a Hero Pen , so I will give my child an I pad. This gift is not because a child needs it but its an action that arises of an emotion of regret and their lost opportunities.
Parenting indeed is not something that is simple and can be taken for granted, The underlying essence seems to be that it requires on-the-go improvisation in techniques as per circumstances and outcomes.
The crux is simple. It is Reacting vs Responding. We all try to teach values to our kids but link emotions to these values. Eg: Respecting Elders is a Value but when you demonstrate this value by doing so at home it is adding an emotion to value that eventually becomes an action. Emotional Quotient is something that we all need to observe as today's parents. It is understood that emotions like nostalgia or dignity do not produce as much drama as authority or power. Having led a childhood of austerity , many of today's parents ensure that their child gets the best. Eg. I struggled to get a Hero Pen , so I will give my child an I pad. This gift is not because a child needs it but its an action that arises of an emotion of regret and their lost opportunities.
Parenting indeed is not something that is simple and can be taken for granted, The underlying essence seems to be that it requires on-the-go improvisation in techniques as per circumstances and outcomes.
1. Regulate your Emotions
Your mood swings and bad mood throw ups can push your child to not act well. But good mood of yours will pump up. We are responsible for our own well being, moods and emotions. And when you can regulate yourself , you can then be the parent you want for your child.
2. It's all about Connection
That's like 80% parenting. Guidance is only 20%. Guidance won't work if trusting connection is not there.
3. Coach and Don't Control
You cannot control another human being. You won't want to help them cooperate with you. Help them want to follow your values and rules, all this only by coaching them. Coach them to handle emotions.
But we are indeed forever protecting and providing for kids. We don't teach them life skills to survive independently and we certainly don't like to cut the umbilical cord ever !
But we are indeed forever protecting and providing for kids. We don't teach them life skills to survive independently and we certainly don't like to cut the umbilical cord ever !
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