Some Chicken Soup/Vegetable Soup for the Parenting Soul,Part 1 ;-)

 

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Okay so I intend sharing some insightful and "worth a ponder " points for all of us. Why is it that child raising has become more like a complicated process that needs sessions and discussions ,unlike our parents who just raised us without so much taboo or talk.On one hand we are hyper protective parents or are the children hyper sensitive? ? Maybe its both . We as parents are trying to be trophy parents validating our parenting and the children on the other, with so much awareness are complicated from the beginning.
I have tried here to list some motivational aspects that we can adopt as a fraternity.

1. Try to raise a confident child 

• Stories play a major role in molding a child's psyche. Inspirational stories motivate a child and gives a chance to explore the hero within all of us.
• Group activities encourage and influence a child to adapt and adjust. Don't ask for results, instead insist on accounting the experiences from activities.
• Never try and be dismissive about the kid at gatherings.
• Help the shy child develop confidence but don't be their mouthpiece.
• Encourage hobbies and learning experiences, because diverse social interactions instill confidence.

2. Motivate for Responsibility

• It should be your child's work to set their bags and check for homework. The child is responsible for his/her academics and not teachers. As parents we need to motivate positively by not telling to work harder , but by showing how interesting any subject can be. 
• Make the child feel responsible for his/her belongings when they go to school or friend's house.
• Screen Time Restriction and involving the child in housework without gender tags.
• Encourage positive interactions through examples that as parents we set-like caring for the younger sibling etc or spending time with the older generation like grandparents etc. 
• Talk about caution modes and not fear factors. 

3. Motivate to be Happy

• Encourage the child to enjoy school/classes etc. Don't expect tangible results ,instead focus on happiness quotient.
• Kids love to thrive in groups ,so insist on peer interaction.
• Doing chores with children will give you an opportunity to bond,or better still watch a good T.V show or movie together and allow discussions to brew.     

4. Motivate your child to have Integrity

• Anger management is important as parent else it will lead to lies/cover ups the next time he/she does anything unacceptable.
• Ensure the child engages in fair play and you don't defend or make excuses when the child does something wrong. The child should develop a sense of what is acceptable behavior.
• Listen impartially and use your judgement sense instead of making a conclusion.
• Ask your child to treat everyone with respect, especially our service individuals. Calling them as " watchman, bai,security" etc is not right. Instead ask the children to stick to "Uncle","Aunty", " Didi" etc
• Discourage the child from bullying even at home or among friends
• Believe in your child and raise your acceptance levels instead of raising the bar and setting impossible targets for your child.
• The child should display confidence that does not translate into stubborn refusal for other's opinions. 

Well these are few that we all can adopt. More Gyan coming up in the next post. Read Part : 2 Here